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Ryan Stephens 🧭
My wife and I have found that focusing more on being teammates and less on being soulmates is a solid recipe for marital success. Here's quick thread on the 6 rules we try to follow to be a good teammate to each other in our marriage. 👇👇👇
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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1.) No one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you. It's one thing to joke with friends about something trivial and quite another to demean your spouse's character. Know the difference and always discuss the latter with your spouse and no one else.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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2.) Over communicate. You cannot read each other’s minds. Never assume the other person knows what you meant. Give each other the benefit of the doubt when miscommunications happen. Double check if necessary.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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3.) Try new things together. Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other, have fun with it. Trying new things gets an individual out of their comfort zone and is often easier as a couple, allowing you both to grow stronger together.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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4.) Be each other’s champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other. Bring home champagne after a promotion at work, back each other up when engaging in that battle with your heathen toddler, work out together, etc. Never cut the other person down when they're struggling.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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5.) Be grateful for each other’s contributions. Whether it be money, time, chores, childcare, or anything else, no one contribution is greater than another. And don’t keep score. If you truly value each other’s input, then the scorecard shouldn’t (and doesn’t) matter.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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6. Trust and respect each other. Especially in front of others, including your children. If you do not respect your spouse in front of other people, why should those people respect your spouse? Enough said.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 5
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Marriage, or any long-term relationship, is not *all* about love & romance. It’s about working at it day in and day out. It’s about choosing your partner every day... You can read the full post from my wife here:
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Eyezofnight Mar 6
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I love how that article has Ashley Madison ads all over it
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 6
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The ads are customized to the user, not the content on the site.
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yu Mar 6
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would’ve never expected 6 rules of marital success from a grumpy profile photo with a glass of scotch next to the name! cheers!
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 6
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Best. Response.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 6
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Fabnsab Mar 6
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I disagree with this. If I didn’t vent to my gfs, I’d never know the things I’m venting about aren’t just my husband, that all men do such and such and that makes it easier to bear.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 7
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I joke that after my wife goes to wine night with her girlfriends, she always comes back and appreciates me more. Venting about something to a trusted friend is different than disparaging your spouse's character or making them the butt of jokes in front of others.
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.::AJ Mar 7
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*holds hand up for points 1-6* My wife and I do all of these. We bicker, sure, but have never had a serious argument in our 11 years together. Always tell them you love them. We do this at least 5 times a day, and we mean it when we say it. Good thread.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 7
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I love it! My parents have been married 35 years and I've never heard them have an actual argument. People always think I'm full of it, but it's true... Great examples for me and my wife.
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 7
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You all - The absolute BEST thing about this entire thread is the amount of you tagging your spouse and significant other and celebrating the fact that you're doing most/all of these. It's not always easy and we don't always get it right, but it's certainly worth it to try. 🍻
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Ryan Stephens 🧭 Mar 9
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