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Marie La
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San Francisco, CA
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Like warm butter on the toast of despair 🌱the opposite of judgment is curiosity ||
rationalist, dungeon master, writer
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Marie La
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Say more?
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Marie La
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Now we have freely available books, great online courses, YouTube tutorials, etc, this holdover from another context is hardly necessary.
I hope we move faster a new system that works better for our current constraints. But big social idntitutions are slow to adapt.
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Marie La
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I doubt anyone thinks it's the best way, teaching large groups of children is efficient if you have limited teachers per community and parents busy with work.
Small farming communities might have one teacher for 30 kids of different ages. Bigger might have classes by age.
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Jeffrey Ladish
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How many people contracted the 2009 H1N1 flu? (don't look it up)
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Marie La
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Longer conversations aren't more helpful. Once you build rapport, explore the issue, know what they're looking for, collaboratively search for solutions together, and make a plan, stop!
Rumination and repetitive circling around are easy patterns to fall into.
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Marie La
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I like that! Suggests a plan:
1) identify censors
2) figure out why they are there
3) is there a way of communicating that successfully re-routes around them?
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Marie La
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The guidelines are consistent with Authentic Relating (AR) and Non-Violent Communication (NVC). It's about empathy and listening, not judging, sympathizing, or trying to fix problems.
broke: "I'm sorry" "have you tried X?"
woke: "I hear you" "what does help look like for you?"
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Marie La
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Even the training is emotionally hard! I'm remembering the times in my past when I could have used someone like me, and wishing I (or someone else) had been there for past-me.
Plus it's tiring to rewire thought patterns.
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Marie La
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They can assert things like "if you use the words 'strong/brave/proud', the texter is X% more likely to rate the conversation as helpful."
Or, that the data debunks the myth that bringing up suicide will plant the idea in someone's head, and that it's safer to ask explicitly.
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Marie La
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I'm often cynical about organizations and institutions. This one is astoundingly effective and actually trying. The online training is great.
CTL has the world's largest database on crisis conversations, and they're using it to increase the effectiveness of volunteers like me.
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Marie La
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I'm training to be a counselor for Crisis Textline (CTL), an asynchronous resource for cooling people down from hot moments. Already, I've learned a lot. CW suicide etc.
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Marie La
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Yeah, and that sounds like a reasonable censor to have.
I have so many censors, some useful and some not. It's a shock I ever say anything.
And valuable information gets lost in my trying to keep the signal:noise unreasonably high
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Marie La
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Jan 30 |
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Aspirational. My and all y'all's oversanitized personas need to act more from honesty than fear twitter.com/Aella_Girl/sta…
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Marie La
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your recent polls have been 🔥
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Marie La
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My trick is to be addicted to delicious lattes and have zero skills at making them myself, now I'm out of bed and have clothes on, how did this happen
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Marie La
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Jan 27 |
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Getting clicker trained by internet strangers with no skin in the game feels uhh dangerous
I turn off Twitter notifications from accounts that don't follow me to avoid this twitter.com/QiaochuYuan/st…
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Marie La
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Jan 27 |
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Newest blog post: Energy Healing?????
Come in with questions on energy healing, leave with those same questions and more. Help me understand what's going on.
narrativemancy.com/2020/01/27/ene…
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Marie La
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Jan 26 |
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someone please make a #sobsquad playlist
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Marie La
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Jan 25 |
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Made an alt to talk about tabletop RPGs, enthusiastic spewing of a year of pent up thoughts ensues twitter.com/daretodice/sta…
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Marie La
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love as something you both practice and feel. My practice includes self-TDT✨
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