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Louise Gulley
Wife,mum of 2👦👧small ones & step mum of 1👩🏻bigger one.Qualified Therapist.Carnivore-ish🥓🍳🥓.Lover of life long learning & curiosity. Open to thoughtcrimes
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Louise Gulley Jul 3
He’s a human being with his own complexities not just someone for you pidegon hole into an identity and uncharitably & simplistically attempt to explain away his dilemma. This very much sounds like YOUR issue, not his.
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Louise Gulley Jun 29
That’s just plain stupidity. You don’t even need training to know that it’s likely to be more complex than that!
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Louise Gulley Jun 29
Replying to @GiorgiaCBert @DrAaronB
Im not sure I’d call that dangerous unless I’m missing something; always possible. 1st one does however sound massively out of touch. The 2nd one got it wrong. Sometimes I think you’ve got to strike out strong. I guess the key thing is:did she come back & acknowledge her mistake
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Louise Gulley Jun 29
🙄🙄🙄I think as therapists we need to keep in our lane. Not everything is boils down to something psychological.
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Louise Gulley Jun 29
Replying to @iseult @DrAaronB
Oh my goodness. 🙄yes, I have plenty of training ones too.
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Jonathan Shedler Jun 27
"In therapy, she came to understand how she habitually brushed aside angry feelings... discovered it was okay to pay attention to them. She became familiar with previously-unknown parts of herself. When she no longer experienced her anger as dangerous, her panic attacks subsided"
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Louise Gulley Jun 25
Yes, I don’t disagree about domestic violence. My bugbear is at the casual over use of that word. It’s quite something to be diagnosed as a psychopath. Narcissists is another one too. Those terms are too often used to easily dismiss someone entirely.
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Louise Gulley Jun 25
Replying to @vincentninja68
I don’t think there’s many actual psychopaths out there. Just plenty of regular people who have learnt to be selfish & inflexible so are ill suited to partnership. A good way to avoid these people is to discern for ppl who can put some of your needs before their own.
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Louise Gulley Jun 25
Absolutely! I’d add to be discerning if you are going to share. I know I have some friends who will really hold me accountable & that’s helpful. I’d also be wary of sharing with ppl who don’t have a solid relationship history themselves.
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Louise Gulley Jun 25
Totally. I’m massively paraphrasing here but Dalai Lama said something along the lines...the love should outweigh the need.
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Louise Gulley Jun 25
Replying to @vincentninja68
Okay I’ll have a go 1) This is a tricky age to advise because they’re going to do what they’re going to do - which is experiment, f**k up & learn from it. So, I’d just let them know without saying it, that I’m here however it lands. You do this by 👂 & holding space.
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Louise Gulley Jun 24
If a relationship is to survive it is essential that you are always holding in mind that you could be the one who’s missed the mark. Relationships require us to be both humble & self aware.
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The Secret Barrister Jun 23
Replying to @BarristerSecret
So, for those at the back: 🔴The court backlog was caused by govt cuts, not Covid 🔴We had a bigger backlog in 2014 and nobody suggested abolishing juries 🔴Any decision to replace juries with judges & magistrates would be in the interests of government, not justice.
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Louise Gulley Jun 22
Replying to @folding_laundry
Admittedly most people in the therapy field are very left wing. There’s a few of us out there who aren’t..so there is hope. I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time. I know they’re just words. All the other BS aside, I think there’s many on here who wish you well too.
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Louise Gulley Jun 22
Anyone out there doing 🥩& has any tips for doing it well but also reasonably cheaply. Any other general hacks also welcome.
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Louise Gulley Jun 21
Replying to @LouiseGulley
It was something v. naughty; the details are hazy. I was regretful. He didn’t bat an eyelid. I expressed my confusion. He said because he knew I felt regret I’d already taken my own lessons from it. This taught me I could trust my own self reflections
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Louise Gulley Jun 21
Replying to @LouiseGulley
2) He treated me like I was someone who could handle responsibility & independence. I remember when I was 8/9 years old telling him something I’d got in trouble for at school...
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Louise Gulley Jun 21
Replying to @LouiseGulley
whether he agreed or disagreed. it meant that he was always my chosen confidant.
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Louise Gulley Jun 21
My dad taught me: 1)How to listen & be open minded. Every night when we he came in from work (presumably knackered from dreadful commute) he listened to me & gave me space to have ALL my thoughts... THREAD
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Building Great Marriages Jun 21
The more I see you bash father's day, the louder I hear that you miss your dad's love. 😥
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