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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
We don't even pay attention to this. The pastor/philosopher in me gets frustrated with the lack of concern over the loss of community. Instead, we have tried to replace our relationship to other people with the relationship to our work and work place.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
I understand many of you appreciate getting out of your house and seeing people. I get this entirely. But doesn't it suggest that something is wrong with how we have organized our world? Shouldn't those needs be met by friends and not colleagues?
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
To bring this back to relocation, I have worked hard to establish some friendships here in Portland. They took me years to develop. My wife has a few friends that I know are key to her mental health. Asking me to move for a _job_ is asking way too much of me.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
Unless a work place can guarantee, which it CAN'T, that I can quickly establish new social groups, support networks, for me and my wife, and one day possibly for children, then it is a cost that I cannot bear.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
No amount of money fixes these problems. Only time, proximity, and opportunity fix these problems. Those things are in shorter and shorter supply as we age.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
If I relocate, which will happen some day, when we get a home or perhaps have to move to take care of family, I want it to be on my terms. I will be better able to handle the divestment that I worked so hard for.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
When it is completely within the realm of possibility to do quality work without the need to divest from community, I cannot fathom why businesses and companies continue to ask us to bear the full brunt of this divestment.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
Now, if you are young, or want a change, or need a change, etc, I fully support you taking a job and moving. If that is what you need, then please do so. But this doesn't need to be the standard for everyone.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
Now, I recognize that my unwillingness to give up my hard-earned community will prevent me from being able to work at some places I think I'd really love to, or work with people I really want to. It's not lost on me.
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Kyle Shevlin 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
But knowing we have the tools and ability to overcome the challenge of relocation, and yet our inertia prevents us from embracing the opportunity before us, that bothers me. It's why I had to say something.
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Kyle Shevlin
I want to conclude with this, I hope where ever you are, you're community needs are being met. I know that's not an easy thing to accomplish. If they aren't, ironically, you're not alone. Get creative, and ask for help. End rant.
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Kyle Shevlin 15 Sep 18
Replying to @chriskrycho
I was thinking the same, many of my longer rants should also be posts.
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Whittington 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
I agree that it takes a while to build a community, when I was in the army, I would relocate every year and I never felt like I belonged anywhere. Even now after being out of the army for almost a year and moving back to New York I still haven't found a community for myself.
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Whittington 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
On the other hand I've gotten accustomed to constantly moving and now I'm okay moving for a job if it's a good opportunity.
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Jason Wattier 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
This was an amazing and very thoughtful rant. Agree 100 percent on everything character!
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Jason Wattier 14 Sep 18
Replying to @kyleshevlin
I can empathize that it was much easier for me to move one year into my post college life than it was later on ...and much much harder when I became engaged. A move is no longer “just” about me...it’s about “us.”
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