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Havi Brooks Jul 3
Latest on The Desert Assassin ops: I’m rewriting the Boring Policies page on my website. I still don’t have a better name for it, we will see if one arises. And I don’t know that I have anything substantially different to convey than I did in say, 2009.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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But websites are like houses, rooms become dusty or disharmonious, something is incongruent or feels off and then you find yourself not wanting to visit that room.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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My own disinclination to link to it shows me that it needs some dusting. Maybe the voice, the language, maybe the way I offer [the thing that I truly want to say that is mysteriously hard to convey].
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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Like everything: a work in progress, it’s not like there’s a point of “ta da, I have said everything I want to say perfectly and will never need to adjust again”. Everything changes. The truth in the words might still be the truth in the words but words come differently now.
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Havi Brooks
A few thoughts on this, let’s see if I can wrangle them: 1) my business exists because of LOVE, this is a difficult thing to explain to people who, for example, went to business school, even when I know more about business than they do, from 15 years of [verb]-ing a business.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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1.5) My business is a SANCTUARY, for the people who need it, it also needs to be a sanctuary for *me*, because otherwise love is not in integrity if I exist as a glowing love source but forget to take care of my own inner spaces
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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2) Sanctuary is the prerequisite for transformation. Change that comes from Safety First, with a healthy respect for Safety First, is so much more workable and sustainable than the kind that’s like OKAY JUMP!
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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(Obviously the People Vary rule applies, and if forcing yourself to jump is *exciting* for you, do it in good health.) In my experience, the people who promote launching yourself face-first into change are people who get a high from that, sure, fine, just know thyself
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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3) But my work is strongly grounded in Safety First, creating safe conditions to explore, and in making changes from the edges.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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I do not at all believe that the only way out is through. Sometimes we can invent amazingly creative over-and-under maneuvers, sometimes playing at the edges CHANGES THE CENTER, you can alter the entire landscape so that when you DO go through, it’s a different experience...
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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4) But either way we are dealing in wild self-treasuring and self-knowing and creating new experiences for how we interact with ourselves (and our selves!) and this is transformative by itself
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
Replying to @havi
5) Whenever you offer something that is Wildly Transformative or even the tiniest bit transformative (however much transformation a person can handle in a moment is impressive, a trillion sparklepoints to us for inviting change!), it’s gonna shake things up.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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6) People will be excited (yay, change!) and then they invariably have their freakout meltdown, which is normal, natural and understandable. We all have our stuff, our habits + patterns, our tendencies and preferences, the status quo of fear and what-if, and internal criticism
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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The status quo of This Is My Stuff wants to maintain stasis, change is threatening. So we get excited about a change and then we don’t actually want to do it, or we sabotage or we flatline or we run away or something else comes up.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
Replying to @havi
All normal + understandable. And if we have that level of self-awareness, we can be like, “Oh hey, doing that thing again where I run away from what I actually want, what am I noticing about this? What would help me have more of a sense of safety/stability here? What do I need?”
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
Replying to @havi
This is the point where people sign up for what you’re offering in whatever form, then they have their meltdown, they don’t have the awareness/tools to recognize it for what it is and take steps, so they want to back out.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
Replying to @havi
Again, SO understandable. Change is scary! We just said yes to embarking on a something, and we don’t know where the voyage is taking us or who we will be on the other side. This is big identity stuff. Totally makes sense that we panic and want out.
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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When I first started the business in 2005, I just wanted to be NICE (this is my stuff, wanting to be “nice” is about wanting to be UNDERSTOOD and SEEN, have my loving intentions knows for what they are, to *not* be a business that just cares about numbers, blah, yes?)
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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So everyone would sign up for a thing (workshop, retreat, course, sessions with me, whatever) and then 90% of them would panic before it started or on the first day and want their money back
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Havi Brooks Jul 3
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(and I was like, OH I HAVE TO BE NICE BECAUSE BEING NICE IS LOVE AND THIS IS ABOUT LOVE, and of course gave everyone their money back)
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