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your friend, Marty Schneider
So here's a little story of the time taught me how impossible it is for professional women to get the respect they deserve:
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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Nicole and I worked for a small employment service firm and one complaint always came from our boss: She took too long to work with clients.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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(This boss was an efficiency-fetishizing gig economy-loving douchebag but that's another story.)
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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As her supervisor, I considered this a minor nuisance at best. I figured the reason I got things done faster was from having more experience
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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But I got stuck monitoring her time and nagging her on the boss' behalf. We both hated it and she tried so hard to speed up with good work.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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So one day I'm emailing a client back-and-forth about his resume and he is just being IMPOSSIBLE. Rude, dismissive, ignoring my questions.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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Telling me his methods were the industry standards (they weren't) and I couldn't understand the terms he used (I could).
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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He was entertainment industry too. An industry I know pretty well.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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Anyway I was getting sick of his shit when I noticed something. Thanks to our shared inbox, I'd been signing all communications as "Nicole"
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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It was Nicole he was being rude to, not me. So out of curiosity I said "Hey this is Martin, I'm taking over this project for Nicole."
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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IMMEDIATE IMPROVEMENT. Positive reception, thanking me for suggestions, responds promptly, saying "great questions!" Became a model client.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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Note: My technique and advice never changed. The only difference was that I had a man's name now.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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So I asked Nicole if this happened all the time. Her response: "I mean, not ALL the time... but yeah. A lot."
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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We did an experiment: For two weeks we switched names. I signed all client emails as Nicole. She signed as me. Folks. It fucking sucked.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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I was in hell. Everything I asked or suggested was questioned. Clients I could do in my sleep were condescending. One asked if I was single.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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Nicole had the most productive week of her career. I realized the reason she took longer is bc she had to convince clients to respect her.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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By the time she could get clients to accept that she knew what she was doing, I could get halfway through another client.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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I wasn't any better at the job than she was, I just had this invisible advantage.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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I showed the boss and he didn't buy it. I told him that was fine, but I was never critiquing her speed with clients again.
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your friend, Marty Schneider 9 Mar 17
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He conceded that battle, but found ways to hound us both on time in other manners, but again, that's a different story.
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