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So, while we're talking about missing stairs in our professional communities, let's talk about Frank Mentzer.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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I met Frank while he was a guest of honor at PaizoCon, a few years back. He was very complimentary to everyone. Assumed it was grandpa-nice.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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When he sent me a friend request on Facebook, I accepted it.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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So he sent me a message, which I rolled my eyes at and gave my standard "I can't offend this guy by telling him he's being gross" blow-off. pic.twitter.com/AvLXB5OOvl
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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(Note: I still have a bunch of FB friends who are friends with him, even though I've posted and talked repeatedly about what he did.)
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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So a bit later, I post a thing about a woman who got groped on a Seattle bus. A friend got a pic of the guy and posted it for help IDing.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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This is paraphrased--I had to delete the post after I repeatedly asked Frank to stop commenting, and didn't anticipate I'd need screenshots.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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But he responds saying basically, "if she didn't like it, why didn't she punch the guy?"
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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I try to explain--gently, since the guy is old--that freezing up is a normal response in those situations.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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Frank is like, "No, that's not normal."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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Several of my friends who are sexual assault survivors show up to say, "Yes, this is a normal response."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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Frank won't listen to them. So then a friend who's a male sexual assault survivor is like, "yes, it is a normal response--for men, too."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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Frank proceeds to tell my sexual assault-survivor friends that if they froze up when they were assaulted, the problem was with them.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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At this point, I am like, "look, dude, again, this is a normal response. Here are a number of links to studies about how it's normal."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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Frank proceeds to tell my survivor friends that if they got assaulted it was their fault for not fighting it, and that they're "sick."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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I tell him, "I'm going to need you to stop posting on this thread now."
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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He refuses, and continues to berate the assault survivors for not fighting off the people who victimized them.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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I delete the post to stop him from commenting.
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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He messages me. pic.twitter.com/bKT8FZ0uqu
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Jessica Price
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17 Oct 17 |
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I see him typing a response after asking him not to contact me again, so I block him.
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