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I wish people were better at distinguishing "I understand where this person is coming from" from "I think this person is correct". I see way too many "lol can you imagine believing X" posts, and I think if you *can't* imagine it you're probably lacking crucial empathy skills.
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David R. MacIver
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Recognising someone as a human being, however flawed, shouldn't be contingent on believing they are correct, and making fun of other people's ridiculous beliefs is mostly a way of helping you pretend that you couldn't fall into that trap.
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David R. MacIver
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Everyone believes wrong things, and pointing and laughing when you discover a particular instance of that mostly just creates a culture where people will hold on to their wrong beliefs more tightly.
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David R. MacIver
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It's OK to be lacking crucial empathy skills BTW. Empathy is really very hard (and people who claim it's not are lying to you and probably to themselves). The important thing is to recognise when you do, and to work on that when it impacts others.
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Miss Distance (Kia☆)
@alt_kia
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David R. MacIver
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Yeah, there are so many disincentives against being good at thinking in public. 😬
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Artyom Kazak
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I used to have the.. opposite thing? Telling people "if you understand where this person is coming from, HOW DARE YOU STILL BE ANGRY AT THEM"
Actually, I can't figure out if it's the opposite thing, or the same thing but in disguise, or something orthogonal
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David R. MacIver
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Oh yeah this version is definitely wrong too.
I do find it's easier to not be angry at someone if I understand where they're coming from, but it's entirely possible for me to decide that they're coming from a bad place and be furious with them for it.
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Andrew Hart
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Also a lot of debate on here is opinion - there is no right or wrong. Some things like "the moon is made of cheese" is clearly wrong but opinions on the merits or not of the EU are just opinion & are neither right or wrong
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David R. MacIver
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I don't think it's unreasonable to treat values which are dramatically different from your own as wrong. It's not the same sort of wrong as being wrong about facts, but it's still wrong. e.g. "Murder is bad" is just an opinion but I will still say someone who disagrees is wrong.
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MattBrookes
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It amazes me how often people say something like "I can't imagine believing...", like lacking imagination is a killer argument.
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